Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and cringed at the image of yourself? If you are guilty of this practice then I would advice you to stop. If you are not happy with yourself, it indicates that you are having no confidence of yourself. If you lack confidence in yourself, then how do you expect others to have confidence in you?
Many people, old or young have insecurities about various things in their lives. It could of their physical appearances, speech, lifestyle, habits, work or even family.
Even at interviews, confidence helps you in clinching that job. Imagine a scenario where two candidates go for the interview where one is confident and assured while the other is a nervous wreck. No prizes for guessing who impresses the interviewer and gets the job.
First of all, you have to understand that confidence can be gained if you try. Of course nobody becomes super confident overnight. It takes time to become confident but it is undeniable that everyone can be confident if they try.
The following are ways where you can help yourself in getting confident
1. Like yourself
The first step in becoming more confident is to accept and like yourself. You should make a list of all your positive traits and strengths on a piece of paper or in your diary. By doing this, you are reminding yourself that you too have praise-worthy qualities like others. You will like yourself and feel confident about yourself after this.
2. Attend Seminars
It is good if you attend seminars where professional speakers offer you tips and guidance on gaining confidence. During the speech, you can even pick up tips on public speaking from the speakers by watching their body language and the way they project themselves.
3. Motivate yourself
Whether it is for an interview or for a presentation, tell yourself that you can do it. Motivate yourself each day and soon you will find your confidence level growing. Another good way for motivation is that after work or study each day you should make a list of at least four things that you did well for that day.
4. Overcome fears
Some people always have a fear that they can never be successful in anything they do. Such insecurity will be a disadvantage and would cause you to lack confidence in yourself and in everything you do in your life. So in order for you to get rid of this fear you have to remind yourself that if you haven’t try something you can never say that you will fail in it. Be positive and try things without any fear or insecurity. For example at work your boss is asking you to head a team but you fear that you will make a mess out of it. Such a fear will prevent you from taking on that task at work. But if you were a confident person you wouldn’t think twice about failing and would gladly take on that task. This shows that a lack of confidence could also affect your career.
5. Accept Failures
If you are always crying over the mistakes that you made in your life, you will never get anywhere. Always remember that past mistakes and failures cannot be reversed and what’s done is done. Thus it is no use crying over spilt milk. A confident individual always looks past those failures in his life. After all, failures are juts part and parcel of becoming successful. If you failed once you should take that failure as a learning lesson.
Everythings Has A Reasion To Life!!!
I trust that everything happens for a reason, even when we’re not wise enough to see it.
Oprah Winfrey
I believe this quote has an important truth we should remember. Life would be difficult if we think that things just happen at random. If we have such mindset, when something goes wrong we may lose heart and do not know what to do. It won’t be easy either to stay grateful and positive when something bad happens. Things will be much easier if we believe that there is a reason behind it and that it’s a part of our life’s picture.
Steve Jobs talked about this very topic in his famous commencement address at Stanford. He called it “connecting the dots”:
If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
Are you having difficult time? Are you at an intersection in your life? Whatever it is, trust that the dots will connect in the future. It will take the pressure off yourself and enable you to walk your life with confidence.
Regarding bad circumstances, here is an important thing to remember: without the bad dots, the whole dots won’t connect as they should.
Bad dots are important. We like to think that only the good dots are important. But the truth is, bad dots are also essential. Our life picture simply can not be completed without them. Dropping out from college might seem like a bad thing for Steve Jobs, but it eventually allows him to bring good typography into personal computers. Similarly, something bad may happen to us, but it will make the picture of our life complete and wonderful.
So, if bad things happen, don’t think that they just happen without a reason. There is a clear reason: without them, the dots in your life won’t connect as they should.
Oprah Winfrey
I believe this quote has an important truth we should remember. Life would be difficult if we think that things just happen at random. If we have such mindset, when something goes wrong we may lose heart and do not know what to do. It won’t be easy either to stay grateful and positive when something bad happens. Things will be much easier if we believe that there is a reason behind it and that it’s a part of our life’s picture.
Steve Jobs talked about this very topic in his famous commencement address at Stanford. He called it “connecting the dots”:
If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
Are you having difficult time? Are you at an intersection in your life? Whatever it is, trust that the dots will connect in the future. It will take the pressure off yourself and enable you to walk your life with confidence.
Regarding bad circumstances, here is an important thing to remember: without the bad dots, the whole dots won’t connect as they should.
Bad dots are important. We like to think that only the good dots are important. But the truth is, bad dots are also essential. Our life picture simply can not be completed without them. Dropping out from college might seem like a bad thing for Steve Jobs, but it eventually allows him to bring good typography into personal computers. Similarly, something bad may happen to us, but it will make the picture of our life complete and wonderful.
So, if bad things happen, don’t think that they just happen without a reason. There is a clear reason: without them, the dots in your life won’t connect as they should.
All Men Glory!!!
"All men are like grass, and all their glory is like the flowers of the field.... The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God stands forever."
Isaiah 40:4
Dear All....Thank you for reading.....Have a wonderfulllll weak ahead....and God be with you all!!!!!!
Isaiah 40:4
Before You Start?
Ephesians 9, "Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart.... Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the grave where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom." We gotta do this now, before we "wither"!
Let-s Give Thank
